love vs marriage

love doesn't necessarily lead to a happy and successful marriage.

why's that..

today i was watching a program on failed relationships and marriages, and this guy (divorced actor) spoke about his experience, and he made a lot of sense to me. he said in effect that love kicks in emotions and hormones, and two people who like spending time together start to feel that's how marriage would be too, but that's not the case as marriage is a completely different ballgame. and i agree with that a hundred percent. we always tend to confuse the two.

he also mentioned that a lot of us, moreso the emotionally dependent kinds, feel we have a void that our spouse is supposed to fill for us. however, the fact is that either person ought to feel complete as an individual, and then for them to share that completeness with each other.

another thing that he said, which i somehow related with, is that he and his spouse had a lot of growing up to do, and so things didn't work out.

the fact also is that no relationship and no two people are perfect - it's not the problem that is the problem, it is how we deal with the problem that decides whether we have a problem or a solution.. profound.

i agree.. and its food for further thought for my emotionally overworked mind n heart n soul..